This is the limit
At an event I
attended recently, I witnessed attitudes that left me too appalled for words
that the need to address it head-on is pertinent.
This event was to
begin at a scheduled time and I arrived with one of the organisers ahead of
schedule to help set up the venue. Soon guests started to arrive and quite many were on time, including Africans from other countries.
Two hours into the
event the celebrant made an interesting observation to me as I was already
seething with rage that our ‘people’ had not yet arrived. Most of the guests
were friends and acquaintances of the partner and they were also on hand to run
last-minute errands for the event.
I’m calling them out
After the third
hour, the familiar Nigerian crowd sauntered in, amongst this lot were supposed
organisers too, without apology or regret and they ensconced themselves in
isolation to most of the early arrivals, there was very little mingling and I
doubt most of them even introduced themselves to others, talk less of shaking
hands. I was both scandalised and appalled.
We have somewhat
embraced the rotten and reprehensible cultural trait of not being punctual and
given it a seemingly respectable moniker of African Time. It is not African
Time, it is deplorable conduct, excused by too many.
With African Time,
you can descend into sloppy timekeeping even if you are wearing and expensive
watch, since the purpose of the watch is not to keep time, but to show off your
shiny baubles like a primitive given shiny worthless things in exchange for
jewels of antiquity.
With African Time,
you are under no obligation to give adequate notice of your estimated time of
arrival if you will not arrive on time as other better-bred and cultured people
do, it is an accepted norm to absent yourself from discipline and rigour,
because Africans do not do order.
It is a thing of honour and respect
Sometimes, I wonder
if the irredeemable purveyors of the African Time practice will arrive at
interviews for jobs late too and what stupid excuses they might have to proffer
that the interviewer will be too embarrassed to comment, but that simple act of
late coming will be an automatic disqualification for the job.
Some suggested, that this African Time concept is a values thing, I will go further to suggest it is
first a sign of indiscipline and unreliableness, which means I will never be
able to recommend such people in a professional setting and I know some
recommendations I have given count for much.
Beyond this, it
is an expression of disrespect apart from surreptitiously dishonouring the host.
Now, whilst any host will appreciate being respected and honoured with the
attendance of guests at any function they arrange, the greater honour and
respect are shown and fully acknowledged when guests arrive on time and more so
when they stay to the end.
Keep away if you can’t be punctual
I cannot imagine
myself arriving at a function late without giving advance notice, besides, I
try to communicate to ensure my host is not left worrying where I might be. If
the matter is tentative, we can work on probabilities, but if an assurance is
given, then, my word must be my bond.
I write this blog
utterly disgusted by conduct that leaves me close to reaching for a sickbag,
African Time attitudes are learnt and to see this contemptible activity
deployed to the point of expert utility by Nigerian youths is both unacceptable
and untenable.
I have many times
raised this issue with some of these youths to no avail and I am no more to
condone or tolerate this utter uselessness. If you cannot respect and honour
your host with being punctual or giving proper notice of why you will be late,
please just stay away from the gathering of respectable and cultured people, it
is evident that swine associating with people will not turn swine into ladies
or gentlemen.
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