A brief and enduring encounter
James Anderson was a
friend of mine, we met one evening some 30 years ago at the old Brief Encounter pub
on St. Martin’s Lane in London’s West End. I cannot say why he took a liking to
me, but we got chatting, he got me a drink and then invited me back to his
place.
Quite an intriguing
guy, he lived in Bermondsey and his little apartment was crowded out with vinyl albums, 5,000, he told me, mostly to do with opera and operetta, he was a
walking encyclopaedia of that genre of music and entertainment, long before I
had any liking for it.
I left his place in
the pouring rain to return to an apartment I shared with others only to find
that I could not get in because I did not have the keys and I could not rouse
anyone to open the door that late in the night. I went to find a phone box as
this was before mobile phones became commonplace and called James about my
predicament, still wet from the rain.
He kindly invited me
back, gave me warm clothes, made me tea and we went to bed. That is how we
began a friendship and I learnt that he was HIV+ with his health just about
holding up. Over the next few years, I met up with James on all sorts of occasions.
A humorous wit, a cheeky smile and almost always up to mischief.
Praying for the time
He also had a sense
of urgency, he wanted to finish the second edition of his published book, The
Complete Dictionary of Opera & Operetta and he did not know how much
time he had left to get it done. He did get it all done and published.
In July 1993, we had
a big 37th birthday party at his place in his honour, quite a few
common friends were there, some I had also met before at the Brief Encounter. I
did not realise that it was almost like a farewell party. James had been ill
and developed AIDS, he seemed his jovial self but was probably putting up
appearances. It was a rather jolly time.
A life cut short
Sadly, in early 1994 there
was a two-page spread, a recognisable picture of a handsome and youthful man in
a newspaper, I think the London Evening Standard, and there was a long tribute
to the man we fondly knew as the Opera queen, James Anderson had died the night
before due to complications of AIDS at the young age of 37.
I did not find out
any details pertaining to his funeral, I just mourned privately, sad that such
an amazing man had been taken from amongst us, like many others who I met and befriended
after James. I cannot find anywhere James has been memorialised, not even on
the UK AIDS Memorial Quilt.
Remembering the times
Of recent, I have
been viewing memorials that have garnered some interest after the airing of the
television series, It’s A Sin
which documents a decade of lives of some young gay men affected by the AIDS
crisis in London in the decade from 1981 to 1991. I have from time to time also
searched online for James’ book, just to see if it was still in print.
However, this
morning, reading a review of the book posted by a buyer in 2013, they
complained the book was dated and some information was incorrect. This was a
book researched long before the days of the Internet and I was almost ready to
respond, that the only reason why the book had not been republished, updated
and had current events and personalities were because, the author, died some 27
years ago.
All I have now of
James Anderson is pictured in my mind, flashes of moments that defined our
friendship, the danger that in my naivety I was unaware of and then accepted.
He was the first person I knew who had the disease, it did not make him any
less a wonderful person, he just passed on at a time when there was little to
help his situation, as did many in the 1990s into the early 2000s.
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