We see only the good
Through affinity and familiarity,
we acquire the kind of subjectivity that blinds us to certain characteristics
of personality and integrity. The people we seem to know by whom we have
determined they can do no wrong, we hoist them on plinths of adoration,
unimpeachable and perfect despite their flaws being evident to others.
The searing truth of
the character of our somewhat familiars escapes scrutiny and challenge, we are
left totally unpersuaded of the truth and maybe that is necessary for the kind
of relationships we need to maintain for the respect or the mystique the person
presents to our opinions and adulation of them.
Speak the truth
always
Yet, I am of the rare
disposition of not speaking ill of the dead whilst not supporting false encomiums
and epitaphs that suggest a life lived differently from the knowledge we have of
such persons. The needful must be done, to bury the dead. However, to praise
them beyond their lived human expression is to at once attend to falsehood and
do them an injustice.
The evil men do
remains the evil they have done, just as the good they have done is the good
for which they should be lauded and appreciated.
Do well with all
In the many stories I
have heard of people who have heretofore seemed worthy of praise because their
deeds are concealed in the secrecy of acts that others remember them for, I
have been astounded.
All I can say is that
for all that they might have done wrong, we should find it in our better selves
not to act as they have done to us and so become like them, but to rise to a
standard for which we might be found good, faultless, and exemplary.
The sands of time
will always archive the record and in the way we have been made to feel, by
those who have contemned us, if we cannot forget, we can attempt to forgive.
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